Thursday, January 8, 2009
So, my daughter is due for her yearly VCUG and I am getting very anxious about it. I don't want to do it.?
She was sexually abused before we got her as a foster child at 15 months and the first one was horrible. I begged them not to do it because of the sexual abuse but they said she would "get over it". The second one was not bad because we went to a hospital that would do consious sedation. Our insurance won't pay for that anymore. Her kidney reflux is so low, I don't see why we need to get another one. It is completely gone on one side and just a 1 on the other. Would I be neglegent to refuse? I can refuse now that we adopted her whereas before she was still in state custody. I just don't see the point on a child who still has sexual fears, although they told me that she can't possibly remember. They weren't the ones potty training her, were they?I agree with Amanda you probably need to find a more sympathetic doctor. I would still ask the hospital where the test will be performed if they can give her oral Versed. Versed helps to relax and calm people and also helps them forget the events. I don't think the insurance company can refuse your daughter to have some form of sedation. The nurse or precert person at the doctor's office needs to make sure the insurance company understands your daughter was the victim of sexual abuse. It is also up to the radiologist performing the procedure. If your child is fidgety and the test can't be performed properly sedation can be given. I would talk with the radiologist. It could always be written she struggled and was not cooperative so sedation had to be given to complete the test. The insurance company then can't refuse.
I would still have the test done because you do not want to blame yourself in the long run for failing to provide treatment to your daughter.
I would also look into counseling for your family. This is very difficult and I admire you for adopting a child. I hope the test goes okay and I hope the kidney reflux issue will be resolved. I was kidnapped and molested when I was like 2 or 3... I don't "remember" anything but I always felt that something was different about me. I had different views about everything, I have certain issues with intimacy and personal space, etc.
If the doctor can't sympathize/empathize with a sexually abused patient then maybe it's time to find a different doctor... I've never heard anyone say something like "she'll get over it" or "she doesn't even remember" with such a disregard for a sexually abused CHILD.
that's horrible.
I don't know that I'd outright refuse it, but I would try to find a different doctor, maybe one who particularly specializes in abused children? #If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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